Tell me if this sounds familiar...
๐๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ข๐บ - You spring out of bed, full of excitement to crush the day. After all, it's Monday and that's the day you said you start getting serious about losing weight. You get your workout in and stick to your meal plan for the day. You are on fire.
๐๐ถ๐ฆ๐ด๐ฅ๐ข๐บ - You spring out of bed again, fueled by yesterday's success and start tackling your day. You have a couple extra snacks as you're preparing the kid's food for the day, but you try not to dwell on it. You still get your workout in and mark the day as a win.
๐๐ฆ๐ฅ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ด๐ฅ๐ข๐บ - A little less "spring" as you roll out of bed this morning. The weight of the day feels exhausting... work is extra demanding and your kids aren't making life any easier. You opt for an easier route for dinner and order pizza for the family. Because of your heavy schedule, you skipped your workout but managed to take the dog for a short walk.
๐๐ฉ๐ถ๐ณ๐ด๐ฅ๐ข๐บ - You have to peel yourself out of bed this morning as you're feeling more groggy than the past few days. The thought of a workout sounds impossible, so you tell yourself you'll do it in the evening. Because you strayed from your original meal plan last night, you don't have anything planned for lunch. Instead, you swing by the fast food joint near work on your break. Work goes late, so you aren't able to fit in your workout as promised and you start to beat yourself up for it.
๐๐ณ๐ช๐ฅ๐ข๐บ - You hit the snooze several times and miss your opportunity to workout again. At this point you're debating whether you'll just restart on Monday or whether your life will even allow for you to be successful.
I can't tell you how many times I've experienced this personally and had clients tell me this exact timeline.
So how do we get out of this vicious cycle that is destroying our ability to be successful?
๐ ๐ก๐๐ฏ๐ ๐ ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐๐ฌ ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐ฏ๐จ๐ข๐๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ฆ๐๐ง๐ญ๐ฎ๐ฆ ๐ค๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐ฒ๐๐ฅ๐:
๐. ๐๐๐ญ ๐ซ๐๐๐ฅ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐ ๐๐ฑ๐ฉ๐๐๐ญ๐๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ. You are not going to go from 0-100 overnight. Doing so requires a MASSIVE shift, one that is extremely difficult to maintain when you haven't laid the foundation.
A realistic expectation is deciding how you will be 10% better this week vs last week. (One less day of take out, 1 workout completed, track one day's worth of food, etc).
Sure it doesn't sound sexy at all! But you know what else doesn't sound sexy? Starting over 3240 times.
๐. ๐๐๐ญ ๐๐๐ข๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ. This is where the mindset shift takes place. You can't set goals but then go through the same routine that has kept you stuck. You have to intentionally make choices that are going to level you up from your old habits.
For example, having a daily intention of eating a veggie with your breakfast. Or having a daily intention of drinking half a gallon of water.
๐. ๐๐จ๐ง'๐ญ ๐๐ ๐ ๐ก๐ข๐ ๐ก ๐ฌ๐๐ก๐จ๐จ๐ฅ ๐๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ. Whether you become the bully that metaphorically throws yourself up against a locker or name calls you in the middle of class, the result is the same: Shame.
The moment you shame yourself for not being successful, you've just killed any hope to be able to pull yourself out of it.
Shame leads to the negative thought spiral of "I always fail, why do I even try?"
Instead, learn from it and pivot.
Accept that things didn't go perfectly, and learn how you can be better tomorrow.
You see, success is about 80% mindset, and 20% action.
So the next time that you start to fall off track from your plan, I want you to ask yourself....
Did I set realistic expectations? ๐๐ง ๐ฏ๐ฐ, ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ข๐ณ๐ฏ - ๐ฑ๐ช๐ท๐ฐ๐ต - ๐ฅ๐ฐ ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ต๐ต๐ฆ๐ณ ๐ต๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ณ๐ณ๐ฐ๐ธ.
Did I set daily intentions? ๐๐ง ๐ฏ๐ฐ, ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ข๐ณ๐ฏ - ๐ฑ๐ช๐ท๐ฐ๐ต - ๐ฅ๐ฐ ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ต๐ต๐ฆ๐ณ ๐ต๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ณ๐ณ๐ฐ๐ธ.
Are you currently shaming yourself because of it? ๐๐ง ๐บ๐ฆ๐ด, ๐๐๐ ๐๐ ๐๐๐!
๐๐๐๐๐ - ๐๐๐๐๐ - ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐.